The quote that I’m about to share is the single most encouraging string of words that has crossed my path since my dear friend and yoga teacher recited it in class a few months ago.

It’s uplifting because it’s a reminder to take heart in our humanness and the sheer power of being, even and especially on our most ordinary of days.

And, personally, the entire point of much of my writing is to emphasize how every day can be an opportunity to turn the ordinary into the extraordinary. Every waking moment that I inhale a new breath and then let it back out is a chance to have the best day of my life.

“As it is, we are merely bolting our lives—gulping down undigested experiences as fast as we can stuff them in—because awareness of our own existence is so superficial and so narrow that nothing seems to us more boring than simple being.  If I ask you what you did, saw, heard, smelled, touched and tasted yesterday, I am likely to get nothing more than the thin, sketchy outline of the few things that you noticed, and of those only what you thought worth remembering. Is it surprising that an existence so experienced seems so empty and bare that its hunger for an infinite future is insatiable? But suppose you could answer, “It would take me forever to tell you, and I am much too interested in what’s happening now.” How is it possible that a being with such sensitive jewels as the eyes, such enchanted musical instruments as the ears, and such a fabulous arabesque of nerves as the brain can experience itself as anything less than a god? And, when you consider that this incalculably subtle organism is inseparable from the still more marvelous patterns of its environment—from the minutest electrical designs to the whole company of the galaxies—how is it conceivable that this incarnation of all eternity can be bored with being?”

~Alan Watts, The Book: On the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are

Photo credits: imgur.

Special thanks to my good friend for this quote. xo

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There are many universally known truths about life.

One is that life isn’t fair; another is that you don’t want to sit downwind of your lactose intolerant friend after she just ate cheese—and here are a few more:

1. No one trusts a gossip.

2. Numbers on the scale only mean so much.

3. It’s unnecessary to wash your hair every day.

4. But it’s okay if you do.

5. Facebook friends who constantly share workout advice in the vein of P90X and how many squats they did before breakfast are annoying.

6. If you’re still talking about it, then you haven’t “let it go.”

7. Women like sex too.

8. Lying only works for so long.

9. Everyone needs help.

10. Money really doesn’t buy happiness.

11. But having enough doesn’t hurt either.

12. Laughing makes you feel better.

13. Vagina isn’t a bad word.

14. Asshole is.

15. Great love takes work.

16. We all have time to exercise.

17. Perfection isn’t attractive—your wonderful, little quirks are.

18. We should speak the truth, with love.

19. Thoughts become words and actions, so hone your thoughts into the words and actions that you want to live.

20. Live each day like it’s your first, not your last.

“Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin’ away.” ~ Elvis Presley

Photo: Kate Ter Haar/Flickr.

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“The cure for anything is salt water: sweat, tears or the sea.”

~ Isak Dinesen

I’m sitting in bed underneath cozy layers of blankets; sheets tucked in around my thighs.

Morning light streams in from my bedroom windows. An almost overwhelming sliver hits my eye slightly, but not enough to adjust myself; just enough to feel alive within a new and glowing morning.

Streaks of shadows play across my rose and green, leaf-patterned quilt. I could stare at these hazy, darkened lines for hours, making shapes and seeing silhouettes like I did as a child in a rainy car, with beads of water falling down our family van’s windows.

My eyes are puffy and my mind isn’t quite awake yet, despite already having breakfast, getting dressed and dropping my child off at school.

The space heater to the right of my bed pumps out warm air, making a nest of welcoming space directly around my sage green yoga mat.

My heart feels warm too and I can almost feel this warmth creep up my throat and, instead of flowing out of my mouth, it moves out through my fingertips. I hear the clickity-clack, clickity-clack of my typing and I recognize the sensation of feeling truly alive.

I’ve connected my coveted laptop to my portable but large-ish black iPod dock with a rather lengthy cord so that I can listen to unfamiliar music on NPR’s First Listen.

The raging guitars remind me of my rebellious, lively youth and I know that they’re a distinct part of the heat that radiates, not from my small space heater, but from my beating, thriving chest.

And how do we come back to life?

Because last week was a wonderful one for me, but I felt fatigued and low on patience.

I still practiced yoga but, in all honesty, none of my practices felt good to either my body or my soul, and I felt a disconnect as wide as the canyons I’ve hiked between who I wanted to see staring back at me from the mirror last week and who I actually gazed at.

And tears prick my eyes, but they don’t trickle down my cheeks and drop in fluid puddles on my keyboard of letters, where I can see my watery heart laid bare, raw and exposed around my moving fingertips.

No, this morning tears tickle my eyes and that’s exactly the word to describe why: my amused emotions want to extend their joy and gratitude out toward my body where, naked, they can be seen in the glassy splashes of my spirit.

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”

~ Washington Irving

But when life threatens to limit our self-held beliefs and our understanding of our own capabilities through its occasionally harsh reality and simple, daily human wear, it’s easy to forget how to weep for love and light.

One Hindu legend offers that Lord Shiva opened his eyes after a long yogic meditation and began to weep; his tears growing into the rudraksha tree, whose seeds are used traditionally in mala prayer beads—Shiva’s compassionate tears for all of humanity became tools to then help heal.

“But a mermaid has no tears, and therefore she suffers so much more.”

~ Hans Christian Andersen, The Little Mermaid

Because we need to flow through the full range of our human experience in order to not only come alive, but to live with a profound sense of peace and happiness and ease.

And who of us can taste victory without first going through a defeat?

Where is the person who can know love without having been heartbroken?

How can we be healed and whole if we haven’t also fallen apart?

“There are more tears shed over answered prayers than over unanswered prayers.”

~ Saint Teresa of Avila

So on this morning, when the light streams through my bedroom window and falls, along with a few tears, onto my rose and green, leaf-patterned quilt, I count my blessings in each earned droplet.

I turn my head gently to the left and see the reddest of cardinals outside my window, with snow sprinkling his bark-covered perch, and I know that winter is coming to its close and spring—with its re-birth and beauty and elation—is caressing the underside of the earth and advancing on the clear but frigid blue sky—and I know in my churning, beating, watery heart that I’ll enjoy my own youthful, dawning reincarnation much more having equally experienced my own wintry downfall too.

“No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader. No surprise in the writer, no surprise in the reader.”

~ Robert Frost

Photo credits: Author’s own; Anil kumar/Flickr.

This article was first published by elephant journal.

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I grew up loving Valentine’s Day.

I’m lucky because my parents always made it feel special, even if I didn’t have a boyfriend or a crush at school ready to hand me a handmade card.

Yet as we grow older many of us either become sick and bored with the phony sense that this is only a “Hallmark holiday,” or we’re sad and lonely and don’t feel much like celebrating. And, yes, love is a wonderful, joyous thing, but I think that many of us forget that love doesn’t have to always come in the form of a long-term relationship and long-stem roses.

Love can come from friends and from children and from parents and, sure, from spouses too.

While I’m thankful to be spending today with my adoring partner, the love that I’ll be sending out into the world isn’t only extended to him. Actually, I was inspired to write this by one of my best friends, another writer, who reminded me that love is so much more than heart-shaped cookies and glasses of red wine (not that those things aren’t fabulous).

So, for those of you who also needed a boost of loving inspiration, this one’s for you. It’s for you if your day, like mine, won’t be as you might have ideally planned. It’s for you if you’re single. This hand-written valentine, from my heart to yours, is for all of us. (And I hope you enjoy.)

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~ Lao Tzu

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” ~ Mother Teresa

“A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.” ~ Brendan Francis

“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” ~ Audrey Hepburn

“I like not only to be loved, but also to be told I am loved.” ~ George Eliot

“Who, being loved, is poor?” ~ Oscar Wilde

“It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.” ~ William Blake

“For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.” ~ Carl Sagan

“Love is the only reality and it is not a mere sentiment. It is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore

“My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.” ~ Maya Angelou

“I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.” ~ Marilyn Monroe

And being human—exposing ourselves to love and to hurt—it’s all part of the experience:

 “The moment that you feel, just possibly, you are walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind, and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself…That is the moment, you might be starting to get it right.” ~ Neil Gaiman

Finally, I wanted to close with a favorite of mine, because it’s inspirational for all of us, regardless of who we’re sharing Valentine’s Day with.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” ~Oscar Wilde

Bonus: the best love song of all time James Sometimes (Lester Piggot) (1993).

Photos: Author’s own; Nicola Jones/Flickr.

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