{"id":6495,"date":"2016-05-27T09:51:50","date_gmt":"2016-05-27T13:51:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jenniferswhite.com\/?p=6495"},"modified":"2016-05-27T09:51:50","modified_gmt":"2016-05-27T13:51:50","slug":"6-things-besides-the-environment-i-started-caring-more-about-after-having-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jenniferswhite.com\/6-things-besides-the-environment-i-started-caring-more-about-after-having-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Things Besides the Environment I Started Caring More About After Having Kids."},"content":{"rendered":"

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Having children changed me, even without my meaning for this to happen. I hang out with two little kids all day long, and it’s impossible for this not to shape me.<\/p>\n

I care more about some things than ever before—ingredients in store-bought foods, public schools and education—and I care a lot less about other things.
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\nSix things I started caring about after having kids:
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\n1. Rory Gilmore’s love life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I didn’t watch television before having kids, aside from Seinfeld reruns and football, and the occasional food documentary. Now, however, I have a much needed date each night with Netflix and a glass of wine (and my husband, of course).<\/p>\n

Parenting is the most rewarding, hardest job ever. Self-care and downtime are required.<\/p>\n

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2. The size of my pants.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I started caring more than ever about the size of my pants after having kids. I started paying attention to my attachment to my weight because I’m raising two girls and I want them to avoid the eating-disorder struggles and the self-loathing that I battled. So I’ve given myself permission to be honest about my body image, but to not negatively be defined by my physical self either.<\/p>\n

For the first time maybe ever I genuinely love myself. I’m one of those unicorn-moms who wears yoga shorts and doesn’t care what my butt and thighs look like. Deciding to accept that I’ve held myself up to meaningless societal standards for a lifetime ironically helped me purge them.<\/p>\n

(It helps that I don’t know my true size, since the yoga pants I live in aren’t that specific.)<\/p>\n

3. If I’m liked.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I do<\/em> care if people like me, but the people pleaser in me largely went away when I had a better reason to grow up and like myself regardless of unimportant outside feedback—my children.<\/p>\n

4. If I have food between my teeth.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I do still appreciate a heads up if I have salad from lunch wedged between my two bottom teeth, but since I generally have food on my clothes, or in my hair, it’s really less significant now.<\/p>\n

5. Tomorrow.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Planning for our future as a family, and for my kids, is more important to me now than ever, but regularly reminding myself to stay right here<\/em> in this beautiful chaos that is life with little kids means more than ever, too.<\/p>\n

6. Perfection.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’ll always be a little bit Type A and a lot anal-retentive, but my previous ideas of perfection are nothing like my current ones. Lately, if my house is clean, and the kids and I are clean, and cared for, and fed, then everything else is icing.<\/p>\n

Because we have these ideas of what a parent looks like—of what a mother should be—and I, at least, work every day to try to be this ideal creation.<\/p>\n

And then I have to force myself to stop; to look in the mirror; to see the real woman looking back at me—to choose to care about her<\/em> and like her, exactly as she is.<\/p>\n

There is no perfect woman.<\/p>\n

There is no perfect mother.<\/p>\n

We are all perfect.<\/p>\n

We are all deserving of love and respect for living authentically inside of our skin and our lives. I hope to teach my daughters this, too.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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